It’s like a disease in some parts of where I’m from. Especially during wedding season.
Don’t get to close, ya might catch’et! God forbid!
The fact is – people get married young ’round here. If you’re a single girl over 25, you’re an “old maid.” And the single guys over 27 are individually labeled as “that creepy, single dude.”
But not all “mature” single people are weird Mamma’s boys or spoiled divas. Furthermore, there are actually singles out there who aren’t extremely promiscuous OR hyper-obsessed with getting married.
The really funny thing is – single people are often the most judgmental of other single people. Myself included.
This makes pursuing other singles and dating awkward, and the experience is often over-analyzed.
I’ve written this post with all us single folks over 25/27 in mind. I have many single friends, and we’ve all agreed that there are some “single stereotypes” that aren’t true for us or the vast majority of mature single people.
If this is true for you, say amen!
I’m single BUT…
1. I don’t hate my life
In fact, most of us single people are probably more content with ourselves and our lives than we ever have been – with or without a significant other.
We’ve had “me” time to grow and mature as a person. Maybe checked some items off the bucket list. And we’ve had the opportunity to focus on being successful in our careers.
Life as a single person hasn’t sucked.
2. I don’t go around saying “I LOVE being SINGLE”
A) Because, though we don’t hate the single life, we can’t honestly say we “love” it, either. We’re grateful for God’s timing, but not obsessed with being single. I mean…most of us want to get married before we’re 40.
B) Because we’re not in high school, and we don’t try to make other singles want us by pretending to be unattainable.
3. I’d love to settle down, BUT I’m not desperate
Speaking for myself, I was much more “desperate” to be with someone back when I was “with” someone all the time.
As I mentioned, earlier, we single people are quite skeptical of other singles. And we’re typically much less likely to commit to the wrong person now that we’ve gone through pheromone detox.
If anything, we should probably be a bit more open-minded (myself included).
4. I’m open to dating, BUT I’m not “looking” for my spouse
Though this isn’t the case for all mature singles, it is the case for most.
We’ve taken the world’s advice – “It’ll happen when you least expect it.” – quite seriously.
After all…looking and not finding seems like a wasted effort.
That’s why a lot of us don’t “date” much. We don’t want to go lookin’ cause then everybody we know will broadcast that we’re lookin’, and that’s just embarrassing.
5. I’m not asexual, BUT I don’t sleep around…
…secretly hoping this “hook-up” is “the one.”
Many mature singles know that it’s not logical or healthy to believe “hook-ups” are equivalent to glass slippers.
And many also avoid promiscuity so that their reputation isn’t tainted to the point that a “good” girl/guy would turn down a date because of it.
Then, of course… Some aren’t promiscuous for other reasons.
6. I love Jesus, BUT I’m not an overly-religious prude
Some single people have made vows of sexual abstinence (or other vows pertaining to physical intimacy).
Often times, single people who have not necessarily made similar decisions find such vows intimidating. Or simply unappealing.
But just because a person wants to save “it” for the honeymoon doesn’t mean they’re unaffectionate or uptight. That is simply a common misconception.
All humans desire physical intimacy. Some are just “all in” quicker than others.
7. I don’t worry about being single forever
Not all single folk mope around because they have lost hope!
Many of us remain positive and self-satisfied in the meantime.
8. I don’t mind going out alone
The single species can be seen hangin’ out happily in many environments.
There may be some singles that would rather stay home than attend a wedding solo, but most of us embrace opportunities to mingle with (potentially) other singles.
Seeing couples dance, kiss and flirt doesn’t bother us. We just look forward to the day we can dance, kiss and flirt with someone.
Don’t think asking us to be a third, fifth or seventh wheel is going to depress us. It won’t.
9. I am excited to experience relationship milestones with the right person, BUT I’m not jealous of engagements or marriages
We may joke around by saying “Her ring is ugly, anyway,” or “They’ll just be another bad statistic,” or “How did SHE get engaged before I did?” But we don’t mean it.
We know our happy moment will probably come come after out friends have all been divorced a few times anyway… It’s all good.
10. I’m not a feminist, or a male-schovenist, BUT I’m not incompetent
Personally…I can change a light bulb. I can carry my own groceries. I can run a mower just fine. I assemble clothing racks and shelves and other random necessities using my own tool kit. I know how to change a tire and use a plunger. And I have a Dad and a Papaw just a hop, skip and a jump away for anything I haven’t taught myself how to do (like change the oil).
I’m not saying we wouldn’t love to have a man around to fill our gas tank every now and then…but we make it without major disasters.
Male singles aren’t any less competent. Guys can cook, clean, stitch buttons and iron clothes.
So there ya have it! 10 “single stereotypes” that we shouldn’t assign to ALL mature singles.
I’m sure I left several out. So feel free to add your own!